|Sandra Ford Walston|
The Courage Expert
Walston contacted several women and asked them to share how they made courage their daily legacy. I shared the following with her.“Making Courage Your Daily Legacy” - Dr. Beverly Helms
It is difficult for me to put into words how I make courage my daily legacy. Courage is something that was instilled in me at a young age by my mother and even though I am a strong introvert, the use of courage, on a daily basis, has become something at which I think I am unconsciously competent. It is such a part of my repertoire that I don’t really think about it. I guess it has become second nature and is so embedded in my being that when asked to describe the process of making it my daily legacy, I am challenged.
Below are a few of the things I believe have contributed to my daily courage.
- I recognize that you can’t please all the people all the time and in fact, you can’t please half the people half the time, so I don’t try. That doesn’t mean I don’t care what they think or that I am insensitive. I simply don’t use others as the measure for my being.
- In spite of my perfectionistic personality, I finally have come to accept there are no perfect people and I am kinder and more accepting of myself than ever before.
- I try not to break my toothpick on a marshmallow. Making a mountain out of a molehill was once a serious problem for me. I finally realized that a few hours and certainly a few days took care of most problems. I am still working on this.
- I believe in being candid, and saying what I think even though I recognize a greater need to speak the truth more lovingly. At the same time, I preface most opinions by asking the person if they really want to know what I think about something or if they prefer that I tell them what I think they want to hear. While we don't want to believe it, most are not very receptive to an opinion different from their own.
- Because I want to be a pioneer of the future rather than a prisoner of the past as Chopra suggested, I let what happened yesterday stay there. That is not to say I don’t use learnings from the past to make me better, but I don’t dwell on my mistakes. I try to make peace with my past, and forgive myself, which has been and still is, more difficult for me than it should be.
- I take risks, which for a strong introvert, can be very intimidating. I always ask myself what is the worst thing that could happen if I fail. And in the last several years, I have done things I never imagined possible simply because I tried something new or different.
- I have learned to say “no” more often so that I can better enjoy the things I have said “yes” to.
- I try to live each day intentionally, not responding or reacting as much as making conscious choices.
- I try to avoid pessimistic people, spend time when possible serving as a telephone encourager, and recognize that the only investment that lasts is that made in people.